DAAI DING' AN EXPLORATION OF SEX, SEXUAL VIOLENCE & COERCION IN MEN'S PRISONS
SASHA GEAR AND KINDIZA NGUBENI: CENTRE FOR THE STUDY OF VIOLENCE AND RECONCILIATION (CSVR), 2002
SUMMARY
Three main relationship types in which sex takes place in prison are reported.
REFER TO TABLE (page 2) FOR NORMS OF THESE RELATIONSHIPS
Marriages
The apparently most common site of sex in prison, these relationships are power-defined and involve two
kinds of participants: husbands and wives.
There are very specific rules in terms of how participants relate to each other. Husbands own and control
their wives, and must provide materially for them. Wives must be available to their husbands for sex.
Husbands are associated with power and status while their wives tend to be drawn from the vulnerables of inmate culture and are considered inferior.
Vulnerability to Rape & Sexual Subordination
A range of (sometimes complex) strategies and factors are used to turn some prisoners into wives or
women. These strategies are supported by the context of boredom, frustration, and the inequitable
distribution of resources.
The creation of dependency of the person to be used for sex on the person who will perpetrate the violation
(or on behalf of this person) is the common form of subordination strategies. Dependency is regularly
achieved by the creation of fear or material neediness in the target.
Factors that can protect prisoners from unwanted sex include:
· 'Crime' status (violence)
· Access to other networks of power.
· Aggression and mistrust of others
Table: Defining features of three key relationship-types in which sex takes place
Type of relationship |
Role players |
Norms operating between participants
|
Sex norms Men/ husbands penetrate |
Marriage
|
Husbands identified as men often the older partner
identified as women often the younger partner |
Husbands = superior partners: · Own and control their wives · Must provide for wives (food, drugs and other goods)
Wives = inferior partners · Must defer to their men · Must maintain the home space and serve their men · Must service their men's sexual desires
|
Women / wives are penetrated |
'Uchincha ipondo'
|
wives of other prisoners
|
|
Partners take turns to penetrate and receive |
Other consensual relationships (least information)
Often understood to involve people |
Protagonists do not occupy distinct roles |
Relationship defined by 'love'-feelings that partners have for each other |
Actual sex not discussed |
Gangs,
The practice of prison marriages is institutionalised in structures of the Numbers gangs.
All the Numbers gangs have members who are in sexual marriage relationships even when the stated codes of the gang expressly forbid it. However, not all gang-members endorse these practices, neither is it only members of gangs who are involved in coercive sex activities.
Meanings of 'Man' and 'Woman'
Much of the sex that takes place in prison happens along gendered lines. Depending on a person's role in the sex act, participants are identified in prison culture as men or women. In marriages' example, husbands are made up of men and wives of women. The ways in which these gendered identities are understood within inmate culture fundamentally impact on prisoner experiences.
Generally, anyone who has been sexually penetrated in a power-defined interaction is considered a woman. Women are considered inferior and not true' criminals and are repeatedly humiliated by fellow prisoners. It is their job' to provide men with sex. Most women are ashamed of this status, try to hide it and are usually living with the trauma of having been sexually violated. Once defined as a woman, it is very difficult to get rid
of this identity.
Conversely it is a symbol of masculine status to have a wife or woman, and even to have raped another prisoner. Men boast about their sexual relationships/interactions with women.
Promotion to 'Manhood'
The criteria for promotion to 'manhood' tend to be ruled upon by the gang structures. Being promoted to man status typically involves violence against others (non-gang-members or warders) as well as the 'courage' to withstand the punishment by officials that may follow the violence.
The majority of wyfies do not get promoted because they are frightened and because if they were to commit the necessary violence, they would probably extend their prison sentences.
A well as demanding violence from those seeking promotion, revenge violence is evident in the cyclical nature of sexual abuse reported. Some of the "worst' (most abusive) men are those who had previously been made into wives themselves, say respondents.
Alternative Modes of Sex: Consensual: REFER TO TABLE (page 2)
In addition to marriages, another common site of sex is an interaction known as uchincha ipondo. Uchincha ipondo is very different to marriage style sex because it is defined by consent (rather than power of one party over another) and is considered deviant within dominant inmate culture. It ignores sex rules associated with marriage and is sometimes understood to constitute 'homosexuality' (as opposed to heterosexual roles of marriage).
Other consensual sex-relationships that are defined by the love' feeling that participants have for each other and that do not fit into either of the broad categories (uchincha ipondo or marriage-style) are also reported.
'Homosexuality' and 'Gayness'
Types of Sexual Activity
Respondents talk about two types of sex: anal sex and thigh sex. It is unclear whether one type is more prevalent than the other.
Sex is often considered diseased by respondents although they speak notably little about HIV/AIDS. Similarly there is little talk about HIV/AIDS amongst prisoners, they say.
Most prisoners having sex do not use condoms. The reasons provided for this include:
Prison Warders
Sex, sexual violence and coercion In prison impact on warder behaviour and vice versa.
While some warders offer protective cautions to prisoners, others are directly involved in sexual abuses.
Reporting of Sexual Violations
Although complaints of rape and sexual abuse that are lodged are reportedly rarely given official attention, a number of factors militate against reporting in the first place:
On Release
What are the reintegration consequences of coercive and violent sexual experiences in prison?
In general, amongst victims, perpetrators and witnesses, destructive notions of what it means to be a man are further entrenched in prison. It is likely that many exposed to this context will continue to act out identities which involve the subjugation, ownership and abuse of others. Prison may provide young prisoners with some of their most decisive views on sexuality and gender issues - ones on which they will base their future relationships.